The end of the year is approaching, and I have been reflecting on my relationships with others, particularly the connection and love I share with my friends. Many of them have been part of my life for over ten years, and others, even in a short time, feel like soul bonds that I consciously made space to receive, knowing they will be everlasting. Each one of them is a true blessing.
This newsletter is a letter to them and a letter to you, as we all have people in our lives who know us in both light and darkness, continuing to hold space for us gently, lovingly, and with grace. As you read, I encourage you to reflect on how your friends have impacted your life—even the ones you don’t speak to as often. Consider how their presence, love, support, and, at times, raw honesty have contributed to shaping who you are, influencing how you navigate the world, and your values.
To my friends reading this, I love you, wholeheartedly.
Short Story
Some of my most cherished memories are the amazing birthday parties my parents used to throw for me in the Dominican Republic. What I love the most is how this celebration of life brought together all my friends and other children from the neighborhood. My birthday parties weren’t just for me; they were for all of us to gather, dance, eat, laugh, cry, and build memories that, to this day, fill me with immense joy.
As I sit here, I wonder how some of my childhood friends are doing. I wonder if they are living their dreams, if they're happy, if they remember the birthday parties, if they feel loved, and if they have people in their lives they can count on without a doubt. I know that staying in touch with everyone from our childhoods is unrealistic for some, but I've tried to keep in contact with as many as possible. You see, I grew up on a very tiny street in the city where everyone knew one another, and we were all like family. I shared numerous birthdays, playdates, movie nights, volleyball tournaments, and life experiences with these individuals. They all still hold a special place in my heart, regardless of whether we're as close as we used to be.
“Growing apart doesn't change the fact that for a long time we grew side by side; our roots will always be tangled." — Ally Condie
“True friends are like stars; you can only recognize them when it’s dark around you.” — Bob Marley
Dear Soul-Mate,
In this letter, I will attempt to capture all that you make me feel and all that I have become because of your presence in my life: your presence in energy, accountability, support, grace, truth, joy, respect, and love.
Life has a funny way of taking away and giving back exactly what you need the most—and that is how many of you came into my life: in moments of need, happiness, and solitude. As you may know, I sometimes tend to keep a lot to myself and not share what is truly happening in my life because I fear placing my burdens on others. To be sincere, this tendency probably started when I immigrated to the United States and had to take on significant responsibilities at a young age, often hiding strong emotions to push forward. With time, self-introspection, and you as a friend, I have learned what it feels like to have people with whom I can be truly honest without having to conceal my human experience on this earth. I want to thank you for that. Thank you for the countless times you held space for me to cry, talk, laugh, dance, and be authentically myself—knowing that you have my back and will guide me towards the right path when I am astray.
There were many times when I felt lonely because most of my family is far away, but you always lifted me up, making me smile and reminding me of how much there is to be grateful for. I hope that I have been able to do the same for you during our friendship. Even if we do not speak every day, every week, or even every month, I am always here for you. I want to continue to celebrate you, love you, support you, and hold space for you in whatever way possible. I know that life can be ugly and uncertain, but I want to remind you that you are never alone. With me, you can find a space to let it all go, to discuss the topics that keep you up at night, or the ones that make your heart race with excitement for the future.
God knows how important it is to have people in your life who care about you wholeheartedly and want to see you happy. That is what I wish for you—real happiness, the kind that can be found in small moments as well as big ones. It's the type of happiness that makes you wake up knowing you're safe and loved. I want to see you succeed, land the job you dream of, start your own business, find genuine partnership and love, check off items on your budget list, and experience more moments of joy and gentleness. I want to share the path ahead with you because I am so grateful for you, and I am rooting for you.
I have always been someone very emotional, but I have discovered just how much of a strength that can be. Without it, I wouldn’t be able to feel as deeply as I do for all of you—the old versions and the versions yet to come. I love the person you are now, and I will love the person you become over time because I know you are an amazing human being. Please know that you deserve a beautiful life and that I pray for your wellbeing. I pray for you; for your health, happiness, and dreams.
Lastly, I want to tell you that I can’t wait to create more memories with you. I anticipate the laughter, the tears, and the excitement of life. There must always be a balance, but know that I am rooted in this friendship, and you will always have someone you can trust in me.
Thank you for holding me accountable and being honest when I needed it. Thank you for your words of love and affirmation. Thank you for accepting and loving me. Thank you for being yourself and allowing me to share this life experience with you, my dear friend.
With mucho amor, Dhayana.
Call to Action
Spread the Love Challenge: Let your friends know how much you appreciate them. Here are some creative ways to express your gratitude:
1. Handwritten Letters: Take a moment to write a heartfelt letter expressing your appreciation.
2. Customized Playlist: Create a playlist of songs that remind you of your friend or have a special meaning. Share it with them and let the music convey your feelings.
3. Surprise Gift: Send a thoughtful and personalized surprise gift that reflects your friend's interests or has sentimental value.
4. Plan a Quality Time: Schedule a day to spend quality time together. Whether it's a virtual hangout or an in-person meetup, dedicate time to create new memories and strengthen your bond.
Grateful to know you ❤️